Tall Attitude

I have an attitude every day of my life (my mother will vouch for this) and this morning was no exception. It started out like any other day…

I walk to work anywhere from 6:30-8:00 am depending on when I get up, what my schedule looks like for the day, and to be entirely truthful, my level of motivation. Lately, I’m all about work. So this morning it was about 6:45 and I was walking near the capital.  I decided that I wanted to stop at Walgreens to pick up some eyeliner.  I’m leaving for Mexico in about a week and it wouldn’t behoove me to run dry on eyeliner on my trip. Now Walgreens doesn’t open until 7:00 so I loiter out front for a few minutes.

I was minding my own business, playing ‘Tiny Tower’ on my iPhone and I hear this voice very clearly say to me, ‘Why you gotta be so Tall?’

In all honestly, I wasn’t in the mood.  It was early and I didn’t want to think about what clever comeback I could come up with.  So I chose to ignore it.

Again that voice, ‘Hey you!  Why you gotta be so Tall?’

I could feel someone crowding my space so I made eye contact with a very, very short woman who was glaring at me as if she had a personal problem with my height.  Immediately, I took offense.  I probably didn’t help the situation when I sniffed (probably arrogantly), looked her up and down, and turned away.

She got angrier, ‘I’m talking to you and I asked you a question?’

Softly I responded, “I heard you.  I figured that you couldn’t be that stupid to ask someone twice your size, a dumb question like that.’  I sweetly smiled and went back to playing on my phone.

She started to say more so I looked up and made eye contact again.  This time I wasn’t smiling.  Oddly enough, she moved on.

I am a nice person.  Way too nice, in fact because I tend to give people far more credit than they deserve but this woman got under my skin.  I ended up not getting my eye-liner.  I guess this means I’ll have to go back.  I should also mention, this did not ruin my day.  I actually told this story in a couple of my meetings and it got people to laugh, so all in all, I chalk it up to yet another Holli-experience.

Big hat, polka dots, water, and a smile.  Now that's a happy face!

Big hat, polka dots, water, and a smile. Now that’s a happy face!

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Dear Tall Men (Where are you?)

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I have a t-shirt just like this, it’s part of my dating criteria.

An update on this thing that is sometimes referred to as ‘Dating’:

I’ve been on Match.com for a little over 3 months searching for my other half and I have to admit, I’m sorely disappointed. I know I said I was going to have low expectations and high hopes and I really tried, but I couldn’t help but get excited every time I saw an email from a member of Match. My hopes were dashed each time. My entire life, height has never been an issue when I’ve dated. I’ve never cared about the height of the past men I’ve dated because I don’t want to miss out on a great personality. But this time I decided that I want to date ‘up’. I decided this because my last boyfriend was my height and I have to admit, I loved it. I want that again and unless some guy completely wows me, I need someone close to my height.

I’ve had 67 winks, 28 emails, 14 guys have favorited me, and my profile has been viewed over 600 times.  Setting aside the couple of guys who emailed me and I consider them to be friends, not a single guy has caught my eye.  At first I thought some of the guys were kidding around when I got an email from them and saw their profile.  But, I sent emails back just to be nice (most of the time).  And when I say kidding around, what I mean is they had profile pictures that they had obviously taken themselves either in the bathroom by a mirror or without a shirt on.  Very unprofessional.  But I tried.  I thought, “Hey, he’s probably really funny”.  Well, I’m here to tell you that they weren’t funny.  They were serious and a couple of them didn’t have jobs, or ambition, or a sense of humor and were actually quite disgusting.  Total flop.

I even emailed back the guys that obviously couldn’t read my requirements and were only 5’10” or 5’11”  Again, my mistake.  Wow.  I’d like to say what a total error this entire Match.com experiment was but I’m trying to remain positive.  It’s a delayed success.  Obviously I’m not meant to find my match, on Match.

Now on the other hand, I can’t expect the guys to do all the work so I probably should’ve emailed or winked at more guys than what I did.  I’ll admit, I only reached out to 5 guys.  None responded.  None.  Not a very big boost to my ego.

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I’m not sure why, but this picture seems to be the perfect picture to insert right about now.  Please note the butcher knife in my head.

Back to square one.  Well, kind of.  I guess you could say I didn’t really start out at a square at all.  I’m trying and I guess that’s the hard part.  One step at a time.

I caught a lot of flak for this the last time I posted about it.  The height thing that is. That’s okay, I’m a big girl and I can handle outside opinions.  But I’ll tell you, it’s what I want. I’m looking for a TALL GUY!!!  While I appreciate the opinions, I’ve had 39 years to figure this stuff out.  So (cute, fun, hilarious, etc) Tall Boys….come out of the wood work!!!  I’m waiting….

An update:  I’m adding on one more paragraph because the one thing I didn’t mention in this whole article is my height.  For those newbies that may not know, I’m 6’4″.

So you wanna start a Tall Club, eh?

You’re tall.  You feel like you hang out with a lot of tall people.  You think it would be fun to start a tall club.  So you talk to your other tall friends and everyone seems to think it would be fun and a great idea.  Now what?  Well, that’s what I’m here for!  I’ve got the inside info on how you can start your very own tall club and also how you too can become affiliated with Tall Clubs International.

The basic requirements:

  1. Men must be a minimum of 6’2″ and women must be a minimum of 5’10”.
  2. All members must be at least 21 years of age.
  3. Start-up clubs should be active for 6 months prior to application for membership
  4. Minimum membership prior to application for membership is 15 members.
  5. TCI annual dues are $3 per member, minimum of $45, due in January of each year.

The basic steps

  1. Name your club and elect officers
  2. Publicize your club (Facebook, Twitter, Meet-Up, etc)
  3. Begin having regular meetings and social events to attract more members
  4. Write your bylaws (samples available)
  5. Open a bank account and start collecting dues to fund events
  6. Once you have 15 members it’s time to apply for members ship!  (you must have authorization by a majority vote of your members directing the club president to seek membership through TCI)
  7. Contact TCI’s Vice President of Membership (tci-membership@tall.org) at least 60 days prior to the annual convention (usually the last weekend in June) to submit your application for membership.  You will need:
  • Letter of Application from your Club President
  • Letter of Sponsorship from another TCI club in good standing (find one that’s close in proximity to you or perhaps make friends with someone in a club OR contact me and I’ll direct you to someone close to you)
  • Send a check for 1/2 of the annual dues (minimum $22.50 for 15 members)
  • List of founding members (Include: names, officially measured height barefoot, zip code, and email address)

If all is in order, your new club will be nominated for membership at the annual Delegates meeting during Convention.

Some of my tall club members at Convention in Las Vegas in 2009 when I won Miss Tall International.

Why should I become affiliated with Tall Clubs International (TCI)?

  • Charity–TCI is affiliated with several charities so your funds go to some great charities such as Marfan Syndrome and Habitat for Humanity.
  • Parents–TCI is a little like your parent.  You have your local club and then TCI above your local club.  It’s a great dynamic.
  • Parties–do you like to party?  Yeah, me too.  And so do many of the TCI members.
  • Tall People–do you like to party with tall people?  Yeah, me too…..see where I’m going with this?
  • Tall Stores–what better place to swap stories about tall stores or even better swap clothes.  Or how about this, many tall stores offer discounts to members of TCI!!!
  • Miss Tall International–Are you single, female, and always wanted to wear a crown and a sash?  Perhaps you should consider running for Miss Tall International.
  • Ummmm…FUN–I don’t think I need to expand on this

Me and my tall friend Jan. This was taken at a Tall Christmas party!

Now, if you’d like to start a tall club please do!  If you would like more information on this please feel free to contact TCI Vice President (currently Genie Williamson) at tci-membership@tall.org.

I can also assist if you would like to contact me at misstallgirlramblings@gmail.com.  I can direct you to clubs near you or directly to TCI for further assistance.

If I could change 1 thing because I’m tall it would be…

Why not bigger tree houses?  We need bigger tree houses to better suit our taller bodies!

I’ve actually thought a long time about this…a long, long time and I’ve wanted to write about it but it’s a difficult and personal thing for each individual.  Someone that is 5’10” is going to want something much different than someone who is 7’8″. And the difference between males and females is also going to vary greatly as well.  I think what I personally would like to change is going to be very, very different than say, a guy that’s 6’10”.  But I guess we’ll see.

The more I thought about this the more I couldn’t narrow it down to one thing.  I can think of one thing that I want more than others, but there are multiple things that I want.  Typical female…I moved my list around so many times although my #1 stayed the same.  Here goes!

If I could change 1 (okay, more than 1) thing because I’m tall it would be:

1.  Airline Seats–now I know this one is obvious but I wouldn’t actually change the width because I fit fine in the actual seat.  It’s the distance between the seats needs to be longer!  My knees are right up against the back of the seat in front of me.  And if the jack-hole in front of me chooses to recline in their seat…I’m going to be a very unhappy passenger.  Or, the airlines could save the bulk-head and exit row seats (provided we can assist in the event of an emergency) for passengers over 6’2″ AND NOT CHARGE US EXTRA!!!!

I chose this for my number one because I travel a lot.  I spend so much money on extra leg-room and checking my luggage that my trips become much more expensive than I’d really like them to be.  An extra $25-$45 for the leg room both ways and then another $20-$25 for my bags, we’ve now added another $100-$150 to my already expensive trip!  Yikes.

Who has extra cash?  Apparently me…

2.  Tall Clubs InternationalTCI (Tall Clubs International) is such an important part of height awareness and they have so much to give as a social club and as a charity, but unfortunately the group is dwindling.  The club began in 1939 and there are still approximately 50 clubs throughout the Unites States with nearly 2,000 members however there was a time when the active membership was nearly 5,000.  I’d like to help get TCI back on the map with some beefed up membership and more active members but I’ll be honest, even I haven’t been very active myself lately.  Life tends to get in the way.  More membership, more advertisement, more sponsors…we need to get more activity!

My 6’4″ friend Megan who is a former President of Tall Clubs International and of course, Moi on the left.

3.  Clothes–okay, let me be a little more specific because personally I don’t have a terrible time finding clothes however there are 2 categories of tall people who need help with clothing:

  • Tall, plus sized-this combination is nearly impossible for women to find good, quality, and reasonably priced clothing.  Most women can’t spend $100 per shirt or $150 per pair of pants.  That’s simply too much for the average woman so there needs to be better availability of tall, plus-sized clothing as well as better pricing.
  • Clothes for the super tall-allow me to explain further.  I have a friend, Chris, who is 6’9″.  He shops at 1 store for almost all of his clothes.  1 store!  I don’t know how he does it.  For those men and women over 6’6″ with inseams over 38′, they need specialty stores that also aren’t horribly expensive and they also need greater access to these stores.

This is Chris and these are actually his hats. Wait, that’s not true. He really wears hats like this to distract people from his 6’9″ height. Okay…that’s not true either.

4.  Height Awareness-I’d like to change some perceptions that people seem to have about tall people.  We all play basketball, we are all freaks, tall women only want to date taller men (okay, for those of you that read my last blog yes, I am searching for a tall guy but that doesn’t mean I haven’t dated shorter guys in the past.  Don’t judge) and all the tall men only date women under 5 feet.  We all get labeled somehow.  We’ll I’ve come up with a few examples of things I’d like for people to know that it’s NOT okay to do or say.

  • It’s not okay to come up behind me when I’m not looking and stand back-to-back with me while your friends take your picture.  You might get punched, seriously.
  • I may or may not have played basketball and unless you know me, you probably should be careful what you ask.  Is it okay to touch a pregnant women’s belly?  Consider my feelings like that pregnant women’s belly…tread lightly.
  • To point and stare at me as I walk by is downright rude.  Learn some manners (unless you are under the age of 8, then it’s acceptable)
  • Thinking you are funny by saying something clever like ‘How’s the weather up there’ or ‘What’s up shorty?’ is really your way of indicating your very low IQ
  • Please don’t ask me to compare hands with you.  Yes, my hands are probably bigger.  I’d also wager that so is my brain.
  • No, my parents aren’t tall.  They are very short, I’m a mutant.  Who can explain science?

My family! All right…my dad is really tall, so is everyone else in my family.

So there you have it.  4 things that I would change and I KNOW I didn’t touch on some topics that others would want to change.  I wonder how much would actually change if I could at least get my wish with the first 4…..hmmmmm, I think I’ll go ponder that for awhile.

Tall Dating–A Personal Experience

Before I go into my official subject I first want to say that I’ve been absent for several weeks.  My life got in the way of my blogging.  But…I’m back!!! And very excited to share some more of my life stories with you.  Hang on!!!

Okay, onto the always touchy subject of dating…ahem…Tall Dating. I got this idea because I was google searching for TALL clothes and somehow this Yahoo Answers site popped up.  (http://answers.yahoo.com). If you remember, back in September Anne did a fantastic blog about ‘How to Date a Tall Girl’ and she had a similar experience.  Some random TALL question popped up on her google alerts.  Anne actually gave advice to the young lad on how to date a tall girl and her advice was sound and very well thought out.  Her blog should be required reading material for any man who would like to date a TALL woman (I’m going to throw an exception in there for the short men who have a fantasy of dating TALL women.  We are not your playground.

Anyway, I got to thinking about my personal dating experiences and I thought I might share a few.  Some are very funny, some are quite silly, and I might share one where I hope that ‘he’ isn’t reading this…but all in all, doesn’t everyone have a story to tell?

So you all know my background: TALL girl who grew up with 3 other sisters, played sports, hilariously funny, charmingly witty, ridiculously silly…and more importantly I had 35 people in my graduating class.  8 boys, 27 girls.  I didn’t date anyone from my high school because there was NO one to date.  Although surprisingly there was one guy taller than me.  Thankfully that’s who I got to walk with at graduation.

In high school I had the grand illusions of finding a man taller than me.  I wasn’t going to accept anything less.  I was SO naive!  There was one guy in a neighboring town named Ryan.  He was 6’9″ and I knew him a little bit because we’d met while ‘scooping the loop’ in Mason City, IA.  I somehow got the nerve to call him out of the blue and ask him to a dance at our high school.  He was so gracious and I’ll never forget what he said when I asked him, “I would love to go, but I don’t think my girlfriend would like it.”  I’ve always thought that was such a great turn-down.

When I did finally meet someone in high school SURPRISE, he was 5’7″ and I thought he looked just like Corey Haim.  I met him also while ‘scooping the loop’ (it was the thing to do in small town IA) and he was really fun.  He was the one that taught me that height really isn’t everything.  He didn’t care that I was taller than him.  In fact, he thought it was kinda cool.  I still have his class ring…oops.

Then college came and I learned that dating isn’t as much fun as having a gazillion guy friends to hang out with.  Guy friends meant that you were the envy of all the girls and you also got invited to all of cool parties, especially when your best friend was a football player.  Now this didn’t mean I stopped dating, it just meant I was more interested in having fun with my friends.  I was never left off a party invite and I knew everyone in college.  It was a great time!

Then came the real world.  Time to settle down a bit and become part of the working world.  My friends were starting to settle down and of course, I wasn’t.  How in the world was I supposed to find ‘the One’?  So I went on this Tall Dating website back in the mid 90’s.  It was more to meet people than anything but hey, it’s worth a try.

I met a few people, but I didn’t date a single one.  One try down, now on to Match.com.  This is where the real fun begins.

This was my Match.com profile picture.

So after I sorted through all of the winks and all of the short men looking for a good time I started chatting with a really funny guy.  I mean really funny.  I’m a sucker for a witty guy who can make me laugh out loud and this guy seemed to have it all.  So we went on a date.  Let me start off by saying he didn’t really look like his picture, he wasn’t 6’2″.  It’s a good thing that I don’t mind shorter men.  Okay, no big deal.  We started talking and immediately I noticed that he seemed very…paranoid.  I won’t go into our conversations because quite frankly, I wouldn’t even know how to print it but at the end of the date we had ended up parking in the same garage.  He told me he had something to show me in his car and would I mind walking to his car?  Well duh, I minded but I’m the curious sort so I did.  He asked me to sit in his car and he reached under the front seat.

He asks me if I like the song “Amazing Grace’.  I say no.  It’s a funeral song and it makes me cry every time I hear it.  So he asks if I like the song “Under the Boardwalk’.  I say yes…..he then pulls out his harmonica and serenades me with ‘Under the Boardwalk’.  I was stunned.  But that wasn’t the end.  Halfway through the song he stops and asks me to ‘sing along’.

In case you are wondering….I chose not to sing.

I’m getting a little wordy tonight so I’m going to wrap up and continue this conversation next week.  Until then…

My Tall Fashion

I’m an online shopper. It’s gotten to be a little ridiculous particularly over the last couple of years but considering that TALL women had little to choose from until very recently, I feel fortunate to be able to afford clothes that actually fit.  And by fit I mean, long enough in the legs, arms, torso, and give me the sense that wherever I go I’m going to rock the house in my fashionable get-up.

Not too long ago I wasn’t so lucky.  In junior high my fashion woes began.  Nothing ever fit me appropriately.  Lucky for me (and probably every other Tall woman) tucked jeans were ‘in’ and so were layered socks.  I could easily hide the fact that my pants were too short by buying longer socks and layering the colors to match my sweaters and tops.  Throughout junior high and really up until about my sophomore year in high school, this was my ploy.  It really seemed to work and it was the late 80’s so I actually had some semblance of wearing what others were wearing.  Of course, it looked ridiculous (even to me back then) but you wear the weird-shaped glasses, over-sized sweaters, and popped collars because that’s the style.

When it got to be my junior and senior year in high school, I was in trouble.  Tucked jeans were no longer ‘in’.  I resorted to buying men’s jeans so they would be long enough.  It’s pretty funny thinking back now how most girls would raid their mother’s closets for something to wear…I was raiding my dad’s closet.  I’d even wear some of his flannel shirts because they were coming into style and they were long enough! (Thank you JC Penney big and tall men’s department)

Family shot. What a horrible shirt I have on!

College was awful.  There’s really nothing much I can say.  I was still wearing men’s jeans and mostly men’s sweatshirts.  Occasionally I’d find a nice shirt but I didn’t have any money in college and to be completely honest, I wasn’t really into fashion.  It wasn’t that I didn’t want to feel pretty and look nice, but I didn’t know where to go.  I had very little money, and most of my friends were men.  It’s difficult to get your guy friends to shop with you.

I wore a lot of plaid, untucked shirts to hide my men's jeans.

When I first started out in the financial industry I wanted a nice suit.  I lived in Des Moines, IA at the time and there WAS a TALL women’s clothing store located in Des Moines. I can’t remember the name anymore but they carried Pendleton brand clothing.  My first time in the store I was amazed and devastated at the same time. The inseams were 36+, the sleeves were incredibly long, and the dresses fell all the way to the floor like they were supposed to…it was awesome.  The clothes seemed a little ‘old lady-ish’ however my grandma, who went shopping with me at the time, informed me that each piece was timeless. Meaning I could wear these for years to come because they would never go out of style.  The devastated part comes in when I started to look at the price tags.   $200 dollars for the jacket, $180 for the skirt, and another $100 for the beautiful white shirt.    This was one suit!  It was a beautiful brown suit that I absolutely loved but almost $500!  Grandma bought me that suit because she wanted me to have something nice for my job.  I wore the shirt out completely but I still have that suit.

A little big, but it still fits!

Nowadays I have choices (and a little more money) at my fingertips.  I can go online and there’s a multitude of shopping I can do from the comfort of my own home.  Sure, it’s no fun when you spend a bunch of money on key pieces of clothing only to find they don’t fit exactly right.  You send them back for a different size BUT you’re also narrowing down your sizing for that particular vendor and you’re that much closer to discovering the true fun of being able to shop for TALL clothes.  I can never have enough clothes, or boots, or suits, but I’m getting there.  And it’s fun!

I’ve spent a lot of time and money figuring out which places I like to shop, where I can find a great deal, and the places that seem to have better quality than others.  I’ve highlighted a few places below to get you started.  I should probably throw in a disclaimer that all of the hints below are based on my own personal experience.  My intent is not to be an advertisement for any of these shops, I only want to get you started on your own wardrobe and hopefully enjoying online shopping as much as I do.  Shop away!

Long Legs – My favorite store to buy my classic clothes.  I purchase all of my work suits here.  I also buy many of my jeans here too.  Good quality.  Sign up for the newsletter for savings.  I really like the fact that they remember me when I speak with them (maybe as a former Miss Tall International?).

Long Tall Sally – I buy much of my fun, everyday items here.  Wait for sales because they have a lot of them and you can get some incredible deals.  Lots of swimwear.  I recently bought 2 pairs of boots for a steal and I get compliments on them and my other clothes all the time.

Long Elegant Legs – Check out their weekly specials for deals.  I really like their tops and dresses.  I’ve bought some pants with success in the past as well active-wear.  I bought a trench coat here once that I adore (and still wear).

Susan’s Tall Fashions – Susan gets all of her clothes from Long Elegant Legs.  It may be from last season or simply overstock but you can get some bargains.  Sizing may be tough but always keep checking back.

Old NavyOld Navy now has a Talls online!  I buy workout gear and many undershirts (layering shirts) here at incredibly frugal prices.  Google Old Navy Coupons or hit up retailmenot.com for coupon codes. It will save you an additional 10-15%.

Grapevinehill – This is my ‘secret’ store for inexpensive, name-brand shoes.  It’s an ebay store that doesn’t charge shipping (usually) and they have shoes up to size 12 for women and 15 for men.  Brand names such as: Born, Rockport, Timberland,  Ralph Lauren, Taryn Rose (love these!), and much more.

Alloy – Jeans with 35 or 37 inseam.  Wait…cool and hip jeans that are long enough.  Prices are good too.  Sizing can be a little different because it’s junior sizing (I wore a 11 in one pair and a 17 in another) but don’t be fooled, it’s not only for teens.

JC Penney’s – Lots of good deals here especially if you get the Friends and Family discounts they run every so often.  I use much of their clothes for layering pieces.  Since they stopped the Ultra Talls I find the sleeves and pants are a tad too short but short sleeves, skirts, and dresses work just fine.

Simply Tall – I like this website for their tops.  I’ve not purchased any jeans or pants but I do see common brands that I’ve seen in other stores so I expect they would be fine.  Good quality clothing.