An update on this thing that is sometimes referred to as ‘Dating’:
I’ve been on Match.com for a little over 3 months searching for my other half and I have to admit, I’m sorely disappointed. I know I said I was going to have low expectations and high hopes and I really tried, but I couldn’t help but get excited every time I saw an email from a member of Match. My hopes were dashed each time. My entire life, height has never been an issue when I’ve dated. I’ve never cared about the height of the past men I’ve dated because I don’t want to miss out on a great personality. But this time I decided that I want to date ‘up’. I decided this because my last boyfriend was my height and I have to admit, I loved it. I want that again and unless some guy completely wows me, I need someone close to my height.
I’ve had 67 winks, 28 emails, 14 guys have favorited me, and my profile has been viewed over 600 times. Setting aside the couple of guys who emailed me and I consider them to be friends, not a single guy has caught my eye. At first I thought some of the guys were kidding around when I got an email from them and saw their profile. But, I sent emails back just to be nice (most of the time). And when I say kidding around, what I mean is they had profile pictures that they had obviously taken themselves either in the bathroom by a mirror or without a shirt on. Very unprofessional. But I tried. I thought, “Hey, he’s probably really funny”. Well, I’m here to tell you that they weren’t funny. They were serious and a couple of them didn’t have jobs, or ambition, or a sense of humor and were actually quite disgusting. Total flop.
I even emailed back the guys that obviously couldn’t read my requirements and were only 5’10” or 5’11” Again, my mistake. Wow. I’d like to say what a total error this entire Match.com experiment was but I’m trying to remain positive. It’s a delayed success. Obviously I’m not meant to find my match, on Match.
Now on the other hand, I can’t expect the guys to do all the work so I probably should’ve emailed or winked at more guys than what I did. I’ll admit, I only reached out to 5 guys. None responded. None. Not a very big boost to my ego.
Back to square one. Well, kind of. I guess you could say I didn’t really start out at a square at all. I’m trying and I guess that’s the hard part. One step at a time.
I caught a lot of flak for this the last time I posted about it. The height thing that is. That’s okay, I’m a big girl and I can handle outside opinions. But I’ll tell you, it’s what I want. I’m looking for a TALL GUY!!! While I appreciate the opinions, I’ve had 39 years to figure this stuff out. So (cute, fun, hilarious, etc) Tall Boys….come out of the wood work!!! I’m waiting….
An update: I’m adding on one more paragraph because the one thing I didn’t mention in this whole article is my height. For those newbies that may not know, I’m 6’4″.
Holli, I know what you mean about “I thought they were kidding”
Before I found my great guy (on pof.com) I saw man after man posting pictures of himself with his shirt off in front of a bathroom mirror. It was so weird to me and then I realized why.
They thought we women were just as concerned about physique as they are. I’m not saying it’s not important but, it’s not important enough to post a bikini shot on an online profile.
Every time I got a note from someone new, the first thing they mentioned was how cute or pretty or beautiful I was. Then maybe 2 paragraphs down, a few would said something about how I seemed interesting. It was a tell tale sign for who was interested in long term dating success or short term hookups. I was in it for the long term.
It just goes to show that most men are more outside appearance motivated initially than most women (at least in the online dating realm.)
It was frustrating but, it’s not hopeless. Keep putting out good energy and you’ll be rewarded…I was and I thought it was hopeless when I started.
The right guy is out there and he’s looking for you too.
All my best,
I know someone who is a great guy, amazing dad to a teenager, smart, good job, funny, well educated, good family…but he’s only 6′ 3 and 1/2″.
Holli, Maybe you should just move to Mpls and us City girls could find you “the one”. Keep posting.. I love to read the blog!
PS… The one is around the corner!!
I thought maybe not posting bathroom pictures was my downfall on crapshoot.com 😉 Spring and summer time in Madison will be ripe for you to find Mr RIght.
You are certainly an attractive woman, notwithstanding the butcher knife through your skull. Ha ha! One of the biggest problems with online dating is that you tend to find people that are geographically undesirable. Plus the someone that you do find and reach out to has meanwhile found someone else and is no longer available. Lack of synchronicity is a big part of the difficulty in finding a match. You have to make the time to put yourself out there wherever you are, and then let random chance do its work for the synchronicity. I suggest that you choose activities that you love to do, and hope to meet someone compatible who also loves those activities. Then at least you have something in common besides height.
Best of luck to you.
Mr. Tall Los Angeles 2002.
You are not alone in this search…..I am also 6’4 and have tried shorter but need 6’2 or taller. I want to make hats that say must be this tall to ride the ride lol! Don’t lose faith one day I am sure the right tall man will come into your life to stay!!!
lol. I just got an email from DateTallPeople for “premier” service for a month for $2.12 on 12/12/12. I should have known. I only got one hit in Milwaukee for someone 6’2″ in excess of my age range in a 50 mile circle.
My yoga instructor this noon told the class that 12/12/12 was for love. I wish us all luck!
Why do i keep seeing low 5 foot folks on Date Tall People.com? Kinda desperately seeking a tall dance partner for this months bluetopia.com dance in Chicago dec 28.
A married friend I play music with last night said to me that I should go for any height because even the 5’6″ ones can wear 6″ heels. Am I silly to want someone over 6′ who can wear 6″ heels?
i think i found my solution. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8GAAirSmU8s
I have been divorced now for two years. In that time, I have been actively looking for someone via an online dating website (I’ve been a member of match / eHarmony as well as tried POF and OkCupid). In the past two years, I have gone on a grand total of FOUR dates.
As the definitity of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results, I am going to be no longer looking for dates via online… as it is pointless.
Instead, I will be meeting with a match maker (Life Mates) in the new year. Sure, it is more expensive, but I will be going on dates and meeting people who want to meet me for me.
When you are tall and female, the dating game is that much harder. Okay. It is pretty much impossible 😛
HI, I feel your pain, as I am a 6’7″ tall euro male born in Cali. and have been around slim women 6’4″ and found them delieriously wonderful. I actually felt normal! Alas they were all around your age. I just turned 64 and am still looking, still single, no kids. I am going international to find one the right age (their choice) and height (my choce). There is that compatibility thing but I am very easy going and make my limits to behaviour easily noted. It keeps things simple. If you like travel, sailing on a 72′ schooner, and trying to make this planet a little happier, e mail me! firstname.lastname@example.org. and yes I know sailing and built the boat myself. Lately I go sailing for pay only, rather work on finishing the boat sooner than later.
I had a similar experience with match.com for a while. I’m 6’3″, have stupidly long limbs (i.e., a 45″ inseam) and a waifish frame that make me seem even taller, and have an addiction to heels. I decided to ignore height and see what happens. I have been dating my wonderful boyfriend who is only 5’8″ for over a year now. It’s a change, and we get weird looks, but whatever. I am happy.
I can relate to every single thing you’re talking about!!!!! I’ve been on every dating site I think looking. No tall men, just plenty of freaks and jerks. Here’s hoping someday us tall girls actually do find a tall man. And for the record…I’m 6ft4 also